范文一：王蒙：我们的幸福在于什么

我们的幸福在于什么

王蒙

停滞不前与犹豫不决绝对不能保证伟大祖国的长治久安。词语在变，观念在变，生活方式在变，人际关系在变，舆论在变。一代又一代的青年成长起来，70后、80后、90后，转眼就是21世纪出生的人们登上历史的舞台。生活会越来越开放，交通会越来越便捷，外国的影响会越来越多。

中国历史在前进，世界在前进，曲折，但并不缓慢。历史的前进都是有代价的，有遗留问题，某种意义上说，建设与发展的问题比生死存亡的问题更复杂和易于产生歧义。

发展是硬道理。发展解决的问题是太不发展所带来的问题，如饥饿，如辍学，如贫穷与愚昧。但发展本身解决不了恰恰是由于发展而不是由于不发展所产生的新问题，如贫富悬殊，如分配与机会的不公平，如奢靡浪费。发展绝对不可能自行解决中国的社会问题：人口问题、环境问题、分配不公正的问题、权力需要更好地监督的问题、教育问题、法制建设问题、深化改革的问题等。相反，发展带来了太多太多的新问题、新忧患、新挑战、新危险。

我们是中国特色社会主义国家。“社会主义”的定语，提醒我们时时关注弱势群体、关注农民、关注百姓、关注贫富差别、关注城乡差别、关注民生与均富。“中国特色”的定语，则提醒我们珍惜传统，更要汲取全世界的一切先进文明成果，不急不躁，不麻木也不闭目塞听，不强不知以为知，更不动辄大吹大擂、咋咋呼呼。我们将以更符合我们的古国大国身份的姿态从容有定地处理各种问题，回应各种挑战。

中国应该成为一个成熟的现代的社会主义国家。政治、经济与民生，民主与法制法治，公民、知识分子的独立性与大局观念、责任观念，自信、自尊与尊重他人，尚文与尚武，道德监督、文化监督、权力平衡与法律监督，意志、人格与理性、科学，个性与共性，全面发展与扬长避短，求胜与共赢……我们需要从头学起，更好地安排妥当。而不文明的乖戾、粗暴、起哄、谩骂、《红楼梦》中赵姨娘式与马道婆式的弱智泼妇巫术方式、个体与群体的政治、社会、道德歇斯底里，希望终有一天与我们彻底告别。

我们一定会建设一个文明幸福的中国。我们用不着老是与别人比GDP或者人均收入的数字。我们也无法用欧美的观点与“范例”来设计我们的体制，或者用我们的体制来衡量评估欧美发达国家的社会制度与生活方式。我们的幸福在于我们的文明与我们的进展，我们的幸福在于我们的从容的自信而不是恒久的拼死拼活心态。我们的信心还在于我们的古老文化，我们是一个能够自我调整、自我修理、自我更新的民族，我们是一个有能力适应新情况新变化、大难不死、历久弥新的民族。

不搞假大空，也不搞狗熊掰棒子，动辄叫喊什么今是而昨非，总是用今天否定昨天。我们正视历史，是为了正视今天，我们肯定历史是为了沉稳前进，我们汲取教训是为了不犯相同的错误，我们不会靠痛心疾首、歇斯底里、夸大其词、装腔作势来哗众取宠，我们只能靠科学吃饭，靠实事求是吃饭，靠智慧与品格吃饭，靠尊重前人、今人与后人吃饭，靠踏踏实实地、一步一个脚印地走在地面上吃饭，靠民主与法制吃饭。

总体来说，政治在走向更加透明、更加开放、更加民主、更加守法、更加进步的方向。

（作者为文化部原部长、中国作家协会名誉主席）

本文来源：2015年5月25日《北京日报》理论周刊

范文二：泥土的幸福

泥土的幸福

铜陵县三中 王璐 正值春光无限好的时候，春燕衔泥偶经我窗前，别致的清新芳草味儿抵制了浓郁的书香。我胡乱扎了一个马尾奔向一楼，深吸一口焕然一新的空气，与昨日的硫磺烟比起来简直是世外桃源啊！

我探身细嗅着土地的芳香，这种沁人心脾的感觉仿佛是从大地深处透出来的，那样纯粹透明。不禁让我感叹：天天被人踩在脚底下的大地为何能拥有如此直接的美。大概是源于它内心的无私吧，它日日夜夜为地面上的生灵操劳，奔波了一辈子，却无法得到子孙的一丝怜悯和关爱。

我们依赖于大地给予我们的宝藏，幼稚地认为它们取之不尽用之不竭。但是每当夜深人静时，我们应当仔细听听来自泥土的哭泣，它谨遵大地的指令：对每一个来往的人持以微笑，换来的却是轰隆隆的挖掘机声，它心疼大地母亲，也只是默默记下一笔笔的账，不知会在未来的哪一天找狠而无心的人类算账。 童年的泥土是天真无邪的。它欢愉的生活在大地母亲的怀抱中，亲吻小花，挑逗小草。待到它长到少年时代，它开始体会母亲的不易了，亲眼目睹着黑心人将毒物排进大地；亲耳谛听着母亲的呻吟；亲生体验了化学物的邪恶。笑容从它的脸上悄悄溜走了，取而代之的是目光中折射的寒光，成为了一个复仇者。在它的心中“幸福”已经被人类亲手挖掘了坟墓，那是个陌生而又熟

悉的词汇。即使它已经发出了无数的警告，可贪婪之心已经蒙蔽了人类的双眼，很少有人沉浸地欣赏大自然去怜惜它。

泥土的幸福就像水桶沉入黑暗的深井，只剩水波荡漾。它的幸福之门正等着人类的良知来打开，它渴望幸福的生活就像我们渴望有一片蓝天一样。收拾起开采的器具，试着端详土地的狼藉，或许人类会拥有与泥土和谐的美好明天。

范文三：亲近泥土的幸福

亲近泥土的幸福

朋友在乡下有块地，确切地说，是他大哥的地，因为他大哥前几年举家赴南方打工，地没人种了，他觉得荒废了可惜，于是就揽过来自己种了。近来，每逢周末，他都会驱车赶回乡下，忙地里的农活。因为惊蛰过后，田地需要翻耕。我没事时，也跟着他去，呼吸一下乡野的新鲜空气，与自然来个亲密接触。

他的地，在一个水库边上。而这个水库，也是他哥承包的。库边还有片树林。树林边上，是间小瓦屋，前些年，他哥曾在这里住过，在水库里养鱼，在库边地里种些瓜菜。有房子、有田地、有水、有树，这就是一个小小的庄园。我颇为羡慕地对朋友说，你了不得了啊，成了庄园主。他听了直乐。

耕地是个体力活。他雇来了村里的手扶拖拉机，突突突耕了一上午。有些边角是耕不到的，需要用头刨。我和朋友脱掉外套，一人一把头，甩开膀子，一点一点地刨。虽然累，出了汗，但心里是舒畅的。 春风是个调皮的孩子，抚弄着我们的脸颊，痒痒的。天上飞着的，不知是什么鸟，免费为我们演唱，歌声婉转悠扬。树林里的喜鹊们，不时从我们身边飞过，有时落在离我们仅几尺之遥的地方，好奇地看我们干活。

新翻过的土，有着淡淡的土香。我贪婪地嗅着。干脆脱掉鞋子，站在松软的泥土上，用脚亲吻大地。在城市里住久了，是应该接地气的。将所有的边角都刨完后，我和朋友累得一屁股坐在地上，呼呼喘粗气，累，并快乐着。

干完了活，该到玩的时候了。我在水库边的大青石上坐下，拿出钓鱼竿开始钓鱼。库里的鱼是小野鱼，大都在手掌般大小，但味道纯美。钓上来的鱼，朋友拾掇干净后，装上些葱、姜丝等调料，放在小酒精锅里，慢慢地炖。不一会儿，就香气四溢了。

美美地吃完这顿野餐，打着饱嗝，朋友心满意得地指点着脚下的土地，盘算着该种些什么，这里种花生，那里种红薯，那边种些蔬菜。我们这样谈论着，仿佛这片土地已经绿意盈盈，快要收获了。

种下希望的种子，然后等候快乐的收获，这是种地的幸福。这种地的过程，也是与自然亲密接触的过程。忘了是谁说的了:现代人的幸福指数，要看他与家人在一起的时间，要看他与自然接触的时间。 海子说:“从明天起，做一个幸福的人，喂马，劈柴，周游世界;从明天起，关心粮食和蔬菜，我有一所房子，面朝大海，春暖花开。” 也许我们还不能周游世界，也许我们还没有房子能面朝大海，但我们可以亲近泥土，关心粮食和蔬菜，一样能做个幸福的人。

范文四：为什么幸福的关键在于时间

为什么幸福的关键在于时间，不在金钱？ 许多研究生常常哀叹：什么时候理想的周五晚上不再是逛夜店，而是变成了朋友们吃着爆米花一起看长长一串Netflix 电影了？但沃顿商学院市场营销学教授凯希·莫吉内尔（Cassie Mogilner）表示，完全没有必要去为这种转变感到担心——它仅仅只是证实人们对幸福的定义会如何随着年龄的增长而发生改变。 在系列论文中——与达特茅斯大学（Dartmouth ）教授阿米特·巴特查吉（Amit Bhattacharjee ）合著的《特殊经历和平常经历带来的幸福感》（Happiness from Ordinary and Extraordinary Experiences）、与斯坦福大学教授珍妮弗·阿科尔（Jennifer Aaker）和麻省理工学院教授塞普·卡姆瓦尔（Sep Kamvar ）合著的《幸福对选择的影响》（How Happiness Affects Choice）和《幸福的意义转变》（The Shifting Meaning of Happiness）、以及单独撰写的《对幸福的追求：时间、金钱和社会关系》（The Pursuit of Happiness: Time, Money and Social Connection）——莫吉内尔分析了影响人们满意程度的不同经历和情绪，发现幸福并不简单，也不像人们所想的那样完全因人而异。

在接受沃顿知识在线的采访时，她介绍了自己的研究发现，并且分析了这些发现对消费者和市场人员的参考意义。

以下是经过编辑的对话内容。

时间和幸福之间的关系

我对人们的幸福感进行了研究分析，并且在工作中发现，时间在其中发挥着至关重要的影响。例如，我分析了让人们仅仅关注时间和仅仅关注金钱分别会带来什么样的影响。这会如何影响人们的幸福感？年龄、尤其是人们对余生长短的看法会如何影响到人们的幸福感？带来幸福感的不同经历类型又会有何影响？ 例如，我发现相比于注重金钱而言，注重时间可以带来更大的幸福感。我是根据此前的研究工作来进行这些分析的。在此前我们曾经追踪过人们如何度过每一

天，以及人们在每天生活中的感受如何。这些研究发现，人们在与他人交往时是最为幸福的。他们在工作或通勤途中的幸福感最低。我希望从研究中发现，考虑时间或金钱会如何影响人们带来开心或不开心的行为方式。

在一个研究中，我选择了人们既可以与他人打交道也可以进行工作的一种背景环境——即咖啡馆。在人们进入咖啡馆时，我拦住他们请他们协助进行调查。该调查是一项句子整理任务，其中悄悄地包括了与时间相关或与金钱相关的词语。此后，他们进入咖啡馆。我们会在他们不知情的情况下偷偷观察他们在咖啡馆里干些什么，看他们与咖啡馆内的其他人怎么打交道，是与他人交谈还是打电话，以及他们工作的情况，不管是使用电脑还是阅读书籍。

在他们离开咖啡馆时，我们又会进行另一项调查，询问他们是否感到幸福。相比于那些在进入咖啡馆时被引导关注金钱的人而言，被引导关注时间的人会花更多的时间与人打交道，而且在离开咖啡馆时感到更加幸福开心。

另一项研究则发现年龄也会影响人们的幸福感。我们最初采用的方法是分析人们在个人博客上如何来晒幸福。我们查阅了数百万份博客。只要有人写着“我感觉幸福”，我们就会分析其情绪的具体表述。我们发现存在两种形式的幸福——一种是与兴奋激动相关，还有一种则是与平心静气有关。

根据博主的档案信息，我们可以看出谁在晒这两种不同类型的幸福。我们发现，

一、二十来岁的年轻人所晒的幸福更多地与兴奋激动有关，而且这种倾向相当明显。30来岁的人所表述的这两类幸福程度相当。然后40、50、60和年龄更长的人明显地更加倾向于表述与平心静气有关的幸福。从中可以看出，我们的幸福感会随着年龄的增长而发生变化。

在另一项研究中，我们分析了不同类型的经历与幸福感之间的关系，并且再次发现年龄在其中也发挥了一定的影响。我们对比了特殊经历——遗憾清单类的事件，例如不可思议的假期、生命的里程碑、毕业、结婚等——和平常经历（即日常的普通事情）所带来的幸福感。对年纪较轻的人和那些认为自己的人生之路还长得很的人来说，特殊经历可以带来更大的幸福感。但有趣的是，随着年龄的增长，平常经历所带来的幸福感越来越多，因而年龄较长的参与者认为平常经历和特殊经历所带来的幸福感相当。

最令人惊奇的研究结论

当一位20岁的年轻人说“我感觉幸福”和一位60岁的老者说同一番话时……他们两个人的感受其实是截然不同的。这点非常有意思。也许一个是感到非常激动和兴奋，而另一位是感受到更加强烈的淡定。平常经历是那些天天会出现的微不足道的时刻，但它们可以带来同特殊时刻一样多的幸福感，这点令人感到惊讶，但也的确很好。人们从生活中的哪些方面找到幸福感？从这个方面来看，上面的发现相当具有价值。

研究发现的实际意义：

对于消费者或者是对幸福感兴趣的所有人而言，其意义在于将关注点从金钱上移开，放到时间这个从根本上来说相当宝贵的资源上。金钱这种资源每天会吸引我们多数的关注力，成为我们思考和计划的重点。进行此类转变将会提醒和激励你在一举一动时选择更幸福的方式，并且用更充实的方式来使用自己的时间。 另一种意义在于，懂得什么会让自己感到幸福以及自己会感到幸福的方式这两点会随着年龄的变化而发生变化。所以你不能根据自己年轻时的概念来评估自己的幸福程度，或者是坚持此前的幸福标准。你应该接受并懂得也许可以从那些安静、让人平心静气的时刻里找到幸福感。如果你为周五晚上窝在沙发上看电视或电影而火冒三丈，这并不意味着你已经感到厌倦。

市场营销领域的借鉴意义：

这项研究对市场营销人员而言，在两个方面具有重要的意义。首先，你看见越来越多的市场营销人员在广告宣传和品牌打造中通过保证创造幸福来从根本面上与消费者拉近关系。从这可以看出，他们首先应该考虑自己所针对的对象。他们想要同哪个人群对话，是年轻人还是中老年人？而且他们在承诺创造幸福时应该如何进行沟通？是通过鲜艳的颜色、激昂的动力、以及浓烈的色彩来凸显兴奋激动所带来的幸福吗？或者他们应该是表达更安静、平和和沉稳的幸福，面向年龄较长的消费者，让他们能产生共鸣？

此外，市场还存在通过电话来介绍产品或品牌体验的趋势。再次建议市场营销人员应该考虑他们希望对话和打交道的对象是谁，从而能够就相关的体验类型提供信息。是那种让人激动的、非同一般的体验吗？或者是更为普通的日常体验能够让目标消费者产生共鸣呢？

《幸福》歌与本研究的关系：

几周前，6名伊朗人因为将他们随着法瑞尔（Pharrell ）的《幸福》（Happy ）歌曲翩翩起舞的视频上传到YouTube 上而被捕。首先，事实是法瑞尔的《幸福》歌已经成为了一种现象，让人发现这种幸福的情绪如此重要，如此激励人心，而且如此让人心有戚戚焉。而且事实上，人们纷纷支持和关心这些因为庆祝和分享自己的幸福而被捕的年轻伊朗人，从中也可以看出幸福这种情绪如何地具有力量。

研究所消除的误解：

人们正在追求而且某天可以找到的并不单单只有幸福这一样东西。而且幸福并不完全因人而异。相反，人们的幸福感和可以带来幸福的经历具有一些可加以预料的规律性，而且幸福会随着人们的年龄增长而发生系统性的变化。年轻人的幸福更多地是与激动兴奋有关，随着年龄的增长，幸福更多的是找到内心的平静。 研究脱颖而出的原因：

我们应该将关注重点从金钱转移到时间上。人们大量关注金钱和利润，也有许多商业研究关注这些东西。有心理和幸福方面的调研质疑金钱是否可以买来幸福。我想说——我的研究也提出——将注意力转移到时间这种对我们而言具有更根本意义的资源上，这将具有重要的价值。

接下来的计划安排：

我正在探索与时间和幸福相关的多种不同路径。一个项目是分析幸福地度过每一天的方式。我们一直在分析人们在每一天中应该有更多变化还是要少点变化。截止目前，研究显示，整体而言，变化的确是生活的调味料。人们可以从更多样的活动中找到更大的幸福感。但当你将时间的划分单位缩小，例如变成每个小时，那么情况就会发生变化。在这种情况下，太多样的活动会让你感觉自己什么事情都没有做完。

我正在和一位博士生进行另一项研究。我们在研究中探索给予时间对人们与他人之间的关系有何影响——研究发现，相对于物质礼物而言，当人们给予他人体验式的礼物，也就是时间礼物，接收人会感觉与赠礼人更为亲近。最后，我也正在研究人们是更喜欢当前这个小时或当前时刻感到幸福，还是更喜欢等到回首那个小时或回首人生时感到幸福。人们是更喜欢体会当下的幸福，还是更喜欢回忆过去所带来的幸福呢？

Why Time — Not Money — Is the Key to Happiness

It’s the lament voiced by many a post-grad: When did the ideal Friday night become a full Netflix queue and a bowl of popcorn shared between friends rather than hours of club hopping? But

Wharton marketing professor Cassie Mogilner says that this shift in priorities is no reason to fret — it’s merely evidence of how people’s definition of happiness changes as they become older.

In a series of papers — “Happiness from Ordinary and

Extraordinary Experiences,” co-authored with Dartmouth professor Amit Bhattcharjee; “How Happiness Affects Choice” and “The

Shifting Meaning of Happiness,” both co-authored with Stanford professor Jennifer Aaker and MIT professor Sep Kamvar; and “The Pursuit of Happiness: Time, Money and Social Connection” —

Mogilner looks at the different experiences and emotions that factor into human contentment, finding that happiness isn’t just one thing, but also isn’t as unique to each person as we might think.

In this conversation with Knowledge@Wharton, she discusses her findings and their implications for both consumers and marketers. An edited transcript of the conversation appears below.

On the connection between time and happiness:

I research people’s happiness, and what I’ve found across the work is that time plays a critical role. For instance, I’ve looked at what is the effect of merely drawing people’s attention to time, as opposed to our other resource of money. How does that impact people’s levels of happiness? How do age and, more specifically, the amount of time people feel like they have left in life influence both how people

experience happiness, as well as the types of experiences that elicit greater happiness?

“When a 20 year-old says, ?I feel happy,? and when a 60 year old says the very same thing … they?re likely feeling very different things.” For example, I have found that focusing on time leads to greater happiness than focusing on money. The way that I explored that was building on prior work, which tracked how people spend their days and also how people feel over the course of their days, finding that people are happiest when they are connecting with other people. Th ey’re least happy when they are doing work or commuting. I wanted to see if thinking about time vs. money would influence people’s tendencies to behave in particularly happy or unhappy ways. In one study, I looked at a context in which people both connect with others, as well as do work — namely, at a café. As people were entering the café, I asked them to fill out a survey. That survey involved a sentence unscrambling task, which surreptitiously exposed them to time-related words or money-related words. Afterwards, they entered the café and unbeknownst to them, we observed how they spent their time there, noting the extent to which they were

connecting with other people at the café, talking to others or on the phone, and the extent to which they were doing work, either on their computers or reading books.

As they left the café, we conducted another survey asking how happy they felt. Those who were led to think about time on their way into the café spent more time connecting and left happier than those who were led to think about money.

The other work I have done found that age influences how people experience happiness. The way we looked into this initially was

looking at how people express feeling happy on their personal blogs. We looked at millions of blogs. Any time someone wrote “I feel” or “I’m feeling happy,” we looked at the content of that emotional expression. We found that there are really two forms of happiness that emerged — one that is tied to feeling excited, and the other that is tied to feeling calm.

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Based on the bloggers’ profile information, we could see who was expressing these different types of happiness. We found that people in their teens and twenties were significantly more likely to express excited happiness than calm happiness. People in their thirties were

actually equally as likely to express one or the other. And then people in their forties, fifties, sixties and above were significantly more likely to express feeling calm happiness than excited happiness, suggesting that the way that we feel happy changes over the course of our life. In other work, we were looking at the types of experiences that are associated with greater happiness, finding that again, age has an impact. We compared the happiness that people extract from extraordinary experiences — those bucket list-type events, like

incredible vacations, life milestones, graduation, getting married — vs. ordinary experiences, those mundane everyday events. Among younger people or people who felt like they had a lot of time left in their lives, it was really those extraordinary experiences that led to greater happiness. But interestingly, as people got older, ordinary experiences produced increasingly greater happiness, such that older participants felt as much happiness from ordinary experiences as they did from extraordinary experiences.

The most surprising conclusions of the research:

I thought it was really interesting that when a 20 year-old says, “I feel happy,” and when a 60 year-old says the very same thing … they’re likely feeling very different things. One will be feeling excited, and the other, a greater sense of calm. I also think it’s surprising —

and actually quite nice — that ordinary experiences, those little

moments that pop up every day, can produce as much as happiness as extraordinary moments. I think that’s really powerful in terms of where people find the happiness in their life.

On the practical implications:

An interesting implication for consumers, or really anyone who’s interested in feeling happy, is to shift attention away from money, which is a resource that tends to absorb most of our attention and

our thinking and planning on a daily basis, and shift attention to this fundamentally precious resource of time. Making that shift will remind you and motivate you to behave in ways that are happier, and to spend your time in more fulfilling ways. “You shouldn?t evaluate or assess

your level of happiness, or hold

yourself to a standard, based on a

concept that you had when you

were younger.” Another implication is to understand that what makes you happy, and even the way that you feel happiness, will or has changed over the course of your life. So you shouldn’t evaluate or assess your level of happiness, or hold yourself to a standard, based on a concept that you had when you were younger. You should allow yourself to accept and appreciate that it is maybe those quiet moments, those calming moments, where you really will find happiness. It doesn’t mean that you’re boring if you’re fired up about a Friday night on the couch watching TV or movies.

What this means for marketing:

The research has tremendous implications for marketers in two ways. First, you see more and more examples of marketers through their campaigns and branding trying to really connect with consumers on a fundamental level by promising happiness. And what it suggests is that they should think about, first of all, who they are targeting. What demographic are they trying to speak to, older or younger individuals? And relatedly, how should they be communicating the happiness they’re promising? Is it excitement, with loud colors, high energy and intense color? Or should they be conveying happiness as a more tranquil, serene, calm type of happiness to really connect with and resonate with an older consumer?

In addition, there is a trend toward dialing up the experiential aspect of your product or brand. It’s suggesting that, again,

marketers should consider who they’re looking to connect with and speak to in order to inform the types of experiences that they are positioning themselves with a respect to. Is it exciting, extraordinary, types of experiences? Or is it those more every day, mundane experiences that will really resonate with their target consumer? How “Happy” (the song) relates to the research:

There was a news story from a couple of weeks ago when six Iranians were arrested for posting on YouTube a video of them dancing to the Pharrell song “Happy.” First of all, the fact that the Pharrell song “Happy” has become a phenomenon in and of itself suggests that this emotion of happiness is so fundamental and so motivating and so resonant with people. And the fact that there’s been such an

outpouring of support and care for these young Iranians who were arrested for the act of celebrating and sharing their happiness just goes to show how effective this emotion of happiness is.

“Happiness is not a singular thing

that people are pursuing and will someday find. It?s also not purely

idiosyncratic and something

different to everyone.”

On the misperceptions dispelled by the research:

Happiness is not a singular thing that people are pursuing and will someday find?Twitter . It’s also not purely idiosyncratic and something different to everyone. Instead, there is predictable

regularity in how people experience happiness, as well as in the

experiences that elicit happiness. Also, there is a systemic shift over the course of people’s lives whereby when people are younger, happiness is more about feeling excited, and as people get older, happiness is more about feeling calm.

On what sets the research apart:

We should be shifting our attention away from money and toward time. There is a lot of attention and business research focused on money and the bottom line. There is also psychology and happiness research questioning if money does buy happiness. I would argue — and my research would argue — that there is a lot of value in shifting attention altogether toward the other resource that is so fundamental to us: time.

On what?s next:

I’m exploring several different paths all related to time and

happiness. One project is looking at happy ways of spending time. We’ve been looking at whether people should be filling their days with more variety vs. less variety. And so far, it suggests that in general, variety is actually the spice of life. People enjoy greater happiness from more varied activities. But that is not the case when you get to

smaller partitions of time, like an hour. And in these cases, too much variety makes you feel like you haven’t gotten anything completed. In other work I am doing with a doctoral student, we’re exploring the impact of giving time on the extent to which people feel

connected with other people — specifically finding that when people give experiential gifts, the gift of time, the recipient feels more

connected to their gift giver than if they had received a material gift. And finally, I’m doing work looking at whether people would prefer feeling happy over the course of an hour, or their life, or whether they would prefer feeling happy looking back on that hour or life. What are people’s preferences between experienced vs. remembered happiness?

范文五：（1.）幸福在哪里？ 幸福不在于得到什么， 而在于能够放下内心的烦恼分别。

（2.）谁都希望得到快乐，可大多数人并不知道，痛苦来自于自私自利，快乐来自于帮助他人。其实你想快乐的话，做慈善是最好的一种途径。“慈”是心怀慈悲，“善”是无我利他，若能真正做到这一点，不管是官员、富翁还是乞丐，内心都会非常充实，前途也会非常光明。

（3.）有人会说：假如人存在前后世，为什么我一点都想不起来？其实，不要说你的前世，就算是今生中的很多事，比如孩提时代的经历，想不起来的也不胜枚举；不要说你的后世，就算是明天发生的事情，你现在也无法亲眼看见。所以，不能因为自己想不起来，或者自己看不见，就把前后世的存在统统抹杀。

（4.）?欣赏别人是一种境界；?善待别人是一种胸怀；?关心别人是一种品质；?理解别人是一种涵养；?帮助别人是一种快乐；?学习别人是一种智慧。

（5.）人生最可贵的事就是“结善缘”，结缘却很简单，一句赞美、一件善事、一个微笑、一点帮助，就能给我们的人生广结善缘。人生追求的无非幸福和快乐，通向幸福和快乐的道路，不是岁月累积，也非执著追求，而是珍惜遇到的每个人,每件物,每份缘；能为人着想，助人为乐，生活必然回馈。

（6.）人生最开心的莫过于财富和理想能够相伴?而行。?财富够基本的生活开支，多余出?来的财富就让它去?服务理想、服务灵魂、?服务社会……爱行千里、命无?边际……你想?去哪里就去那里，想登多高就去登多?高……一切都在你的心里、在你的手里……?在你的世界?里……

（7.）?以金相交，金耗则忘；?以利相交，利尽则散；?以势相交，势去则倾；?以权相交，权失则弃；?以情相交，情逝则伤；?以心相交，静行致远。??????????以静心对动心，以好心对坏心；?以信心对疑心，以真心对妄心；?以大心对小心，以无心对有心。?慧心、善心、仁心，乃为人之本；?宽心、静心、耐心，为处事之道。

（8）人生有太多的问题找不到答案?，太多的答案搞不懂为什么，冥冥中一切皆有定数，我们需要做的就是以善心处于顺境，以静心安于逆境。

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